(Summer, 2000) -- I buy a book called, Sweet Grapes: How to Stop Being Childless and Start Being Childfree.
It helps me reframe our available decisions. Instead of being at the mercy of a stupid god who allows stupid fertility situations to occur (don’t tell me everything has a reason because most of the reasons are also stupid), I can see that I do have choices.
One of the hardest things about infertility is that I've spent four years being choice-less, passive, a victim. I need to feel I'm in the driver's seat of my life again, and this book helps me gain that perception.
1. We can continue to be childfree. Benefits: we’ll have $$ and time to have fun, travel, see movies, be spontaneous.
2. We can try fertility treatments again. Costs: lots of $$ with low odds of success.
3. We can look into adoption.
So we do.